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How to build a support network when caring for someone with Alzheimer's

You're going to need a lot of help. Here's how to get it:

• Divide key responsibilities. Instead of doing everything yourself, divvy up the tasks, if appropriate. For example, one sibling could handle finances and another the medical issues. This makes each task less overwhelming.
• Start a list of contacts who offer to lend a hand. Even if you don't need them right now, later these helpers can provide rides, deliver meals, run errands, make social visits, or provide company and care when you must go out. You'll also need a circle of friends you can just call for a sympathetic ear when you're stressed.
• Collect handy references. The people in your loved one's daily life can sometimes best point you to handymen, yard-care companies, reliable taxi services, volunteer networks, and other helpful services.
• Identify backup care. Primary caregivers need someone with good judgment and the ability to provide the level of care needed to relieve them in an emergency or when they must get away. If you can, find a familiar face. (To hire professional backup care, contact a local home health or personal-care agency. Ask if the same one or two aides can consistently help.)
• Don't overlook online support groups for Alzheimer's family members and caregivers for free, anonymous, 24-hour support.
• Keep your network informed. Offer periodic health updates. Don't be shy about asking for specific help when you need it. Two easy communication tools: group e-mails and Internet care circles, such as Lotsa Helping Hands, an online calendar for coordinating help.
• Find resources to help resolve questions. Ask a Caring.com expert your Alzheimer's question.